I wanted to put in something from Thom, about how he saw things in the beginning too since I only put my own things here:
I think the biggest part for me was just knowing about it at first, getting the idea that people did it, and consented to it.
The strange part was that once I did know about it, and hear a bit about it from Jason, that I found myself thinking about it.
It's not only the idea that I would be holding Sunny accountable for her actions, but that I'd have to be working on myself and MY own actions all the time.
It would really almost force me to take charge of what I needed to do and also help keep her on track at the same time.
It seemed like I would have to be a constant watch on myself and why I didn't really want to be this big leader of the house kind of thing, I did know I needed to be harder on myself and take more action in things.
The strange part was that once I did know about it, and hear a bit about it from Jason, that I found myself thinking about it.
It's not only the idea that I would be holding Sunny accountable for her actions, but that I'd have to be working on myself and MY own actions all the time.
It would really almost force me to take charge of what I needed to do and also help keep her on track at the same time.
It seemed like I would have to be a constant watch on myself and why I didn't really want to be this big leader of the house kind of thing, I did know I needed to be harder on myself and take more action in things.
One of the funny things for me was seeing Sunny in a new light too.
Like I said, after I knew about it, I would see her doing these things, getting mad or frustrated and fussing around at me, slamming a door, or giving me a cold shoulder and I'd actually start to think to myself "Man she being such a pain!"
I almost wished I could just give her a few quick little swats to snap her out of her anger and spiteful way, just a little bit.
Like I said, after I knew about it, I would see her doing these things, getting mad or frustrated and fussing around at me, slamming a door, or giving me a cold shoulder and I'd actually start to think to myself "Man she being such a pain!"
I almost wished I could just give her a few quick little swats to snap her out of her anger and spiteful way, just a little bit.
I think that one of the turning points was after we had finally broken through the anger, she almost wished I would have stopped her sooner when she couldn't see herself being like that.
The hardest part would be could "I" act on it and carry it out if it was ever needed. That was the biggest hurdle! I also can't believe just how so many things fell into place after only a short time. I really did struggle with awful thoughts after the first few times, but things seemed to work and I guess I just stopped questioning it.
The one thing to never forget is to not get lax, or fall into old habits. Consistency is important! This is something to keep up on to make it grow into what you need for your relationship.
The one thing to never forget is to not get lax, or fall into old habits. Consistency is important! This is something to keep up on to make it grow into what you need for your relationship.
Little swats? I can now laugh at that because I remember how I did a lot of door slamming and maybe even foot stomping.
The last thing that really sticks with me (as something people question), for people just beginning this, there is always the thought and or talk about sex.
Is spanking sexual?
Yes, it can be for some. It can be very erotic depending on each individual.
Would a husband or wife be excited about it being a sexual experience? Maybe! The thing is, it's different for everyone.
So to new people coming into this, I can say do NOT be surprised if sex become better than ever once you've taken this journey!
Also, if you are into other things, play around with it, you never know where it can lead or if you can bring things into it!
While punishment spankings are not for sex, or supposed to be erotic, a big thing to know and not be ashamed of is that sometimes, sex can be involved in the discipline process.
Now a bit ago I would say that this should never happen, but recently there has been times where Thom has maybe punished me by only giving me 5 swats over his lap, for something small (maybe like forgetting my wallet for the 100th time!) and he's become aroused.
This then led into a confusing awkward moment at first, but we got past it and we just say that it's OK when/or if it happens and we have let it happen resulting in some very good sex!
I'll leave it at that for now!
